Motivational Monday – Eliminating Negative Self-Talk

I am so excited about today’s Motivational Monday post!

As you may already know, Motivational Mondays manifested last week as a response to all the negativity I’ve experienced surrounding weight loss lately.  This is my space to highlight ways in which individuals can make lifestyle changes and develop tool kits to live healthy, balanced lives (whether or not your goal is weight loss).

My wellness journey continues to bring incredible people into my life.  Creating relationships with people who share common healthy living interests serves me in many ways – these are the people I turn to for inspiration and the ones I call when I feel lost.  More importantly, though, I find my voice through these relationships.  I learn an immense amount through others’ stories, and I realize that I, too, have experiences that are valid and yearn to be understood by others.

It is this precise reason that I am so excited to introduce you Motivational Mondays’ first Motivational guest poster : Caitlin!

Caitlin is a phenomenal woman who is changing the world one positive thought at a time. Her Operation Beautiful blog immediately became a huge success, and it’s no wonder – Operation Beautiful is more than a blog, it’s a profound social concept and movement that is changing the way many women (and men) see themselves.

[all photos courtesy of operationbeautiful.]

I would love to see more of these post-its around Maui [wink wink].

My reasons for asking Caitlin to do a Motivational Monday guest post seem obvious. The girl is on fire!  She’s got an Operation Beautiful book in stores, recently won $10,000 for Girls on the Run in Amway’s Positivity Project, and is in the final stages of her girl/teen edition of an Operation Beautiful book!  More than that, though, she is diligently working to help women everywhere look beyond the negative images and find true beauty within themselves.

So without further ado, I give you Caitlin’s Motivational Monday post:

Hey there!  My name is Caitlin and I blog over at Healthy Tipping Point and Operation Beautiful.  I love the idea of a Motivational Monday because the start of the week truly is the best time to kick off a new habit or make a new healthy choice.

One small thing you can do is stop negative self-talk, which is a huge roadblock to achieving a happier and healthier life.  A lot of negative self-talk is Fat Talk, which is negative talk about your body or appearance, but negative self-talk can really be about anything – your relationships, career, abilities, personality, etc.  I think it’s important to listen to the negative voices to discern where these messages are coming from – media, energy-sucking family members or toxic friends are common culprits.

Once you identify the source of your negative talk, you can put a stop to it by:

  • Consciously correcting yourself, outloud or in your head
  • Replacing your negative thought with a positive but realistic one

So, what do we really mean when we say, “I’m so fat”? We actually mean that we are FULL WITH AN EMOTION. Oftentimes, it’s shame. Or sadness. Or fear.

Why do we express our inner turmoil by hating our bodies? Because that’s what Fat Talk and society tells us to do. Don’t admit you’re scared, just feel fat! Don’t admit you’re lonely or depressed, you’re just fat! We can deal with ugliness, we cannot deal with weakness.

The next time you feel the urge to say, “I’m so fat,” think about what you REALLY mean. By berating your body, you aren’t doing any favors. But by honoring your emotions, you’re living a happier, more honest life.

If you want to learn more, check out

Mahalo nui to Caitlin for your willingness to share your mana`o!  [Seriously, go check out her websites – Operation Beautiful serves as a great pick-me-up when I need some inspiration and Healthy Tipping Point offers all kinds of great advice, from birth-control-talk to healthy recipes!].

Do you catch yourself engaging in negative self-talk or fat-talk? I, personally, have been focusing on eliminating negative fat-talk (it’s amazing how much I do it without realizing it!).

Would you like to be a contributor? Comment or email me at and tell me your motivational story, who motivates you, and/or your tips.

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20 thoughts on “Motivational Monday – Eliminating Negative Self-Talk

  1. Judee says:

    Nice! The power of positive thinking all part of changing up one’s attitude. What a difference we can make! Thanks Caitlin & Haley.

  2. AmandaonMaui says:

    I used to not have the issues with the “fat-talk,” but over the past year I’ve really had it. Last summer after going to visit my family I found that the jeans I took with me no longer fit right when I returned home. I did a week long detox, and stayed off sugar for a month. I tried exercising too, but the jeans still didn’t fit. So, I just kind of let it go and kept letting myself beat myself up for feeling fat. Last fall a woman in my class asked me if I was pregnant, and just a month ago the same thing. It’s not like I have a 9 month belly, but if I’m standing just right I have what looks like a 2 month belly. Having attention drawn to it made me feel a bit worse. Before I stopped eating gluten I used to have bloating that made me look the same way, and a teacher in high school asked if I was pregnant. Ugh. When they ask, I usually just tell them I’m getting fat. It’s not a happy answer, it throws them off balance, but it also makes me feel bad.

    Wow, dumping a lot of honesty here on your blog but it’s kind of helping.

    I’m trying again to get my body back to where it makes me the happiest both in appearance and functionality, but it’s so difficult to stick with it. I’m such a yo-yo exerciser. I don’t do fad diets, thankfully, and I eat quite healthfully, but it’s the lack of exercise I think that’s making me stick where I am. As a student I’m very sedentary. I just wish I could hold onto the motivation.

    I also wish I could stop feeling so negative about my body image these days. Hell, I’m a women’s studies student. WTF am I thinking?

    • greenplatedinners says:

      I totally know where you’re coming from, sister… I’ve gotten weight comments all throughout my childhood, and even if they weren’t meant to be snide, they hurt and left scars that I’m still trying to heal. If it were that easy for all of us to turn off the negative self-talk, we’d all be SO much happier! It’s such a work in progress for me personally, and I’m constantly having to remind myself of my strengths rather than my weaknesses. Someday hopefully it’ll become natural, for both of us =).

      Your process is beautiful and perfect… and you definitely seem like you eat healthily, so focus on that!! For me, I needed to find exercises that were FUN and made me want to come back for more! If you ever want to go hiking/try a turbokick class, I’d love to meet up =).

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